Katelyn and Allison got a hold of an old family photo album the other day. They excitedly asked their mother about some photos of an old dog they discovered. I guess they found it was cool for their own mom to have a dog (Katelyn asked for a dog a few times). Suzanne explained the photos and described how the dog was her pet and that it died some years ago.
That night, when I was readying Katelyn for bed, she went on bragging to me how her mommy used to have a dog. I told her that I do remember the white poodle. She then said to me in a sudden sad tone: “Daddy, Mommy said her doggy died.” I acknowledged it with a nod. Since I noticed a sense of curiosity in her, I explained to her that the dog died of old age and how that’s is natural process. After some thinking and debating in my head whether she was old enough for me to explain the concept of eventual death, I went on explaining that even her daddy & mommy will grow old too.
Katelyn immediately made the connection, sat up and asked me in an alarmed tone “does that mean you & Mommy will die too?” I replied “yes, we will die of old age eventually.” She started to tear up and asked “will you come back after you die?.” I answered that you cannot come back from death but that death is natural and happens to everyone.
Growing more distraught, Katelyn said “but I don’t want you to die.” I calmly tried to allay her fear and explained how that it is in a very distanced future. I explained that we’ll be taking care of her until she grows up and that it’ll take a lot of years before we even reach her grandparents’ ages.
At this point, Katelyn hugged me and in tears, she said “I will miss you!“
4 comments so far
children are so sweet.
July 14th, 2006 at 10:44 am
you almost wish they don’t grow up, don’t you…
July 14th, 2006 at 10:57 am
That is very sweet. But how can you be so sure that you’re not going to come back after you die?
July 14th, 2006 at 12:36 pm
so cute! But that concept is so hard to explain to children, isn’t it? For us religious people, we tell them we will go to heaven if we die and eventually we will be together again! But my kids do not like me saying getting old or being a Grandma!
They say they want me to look like now forever! I wish for that too! 
July 14th, 2006 at 6:43 pm
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